Learn More About Focusing Alone
by Laura Storey
Focusing, particularly Inner Relationship Focusing, is an experiential, embodied practice that helps us connect with our inner experiences, navigate emotions, and find clarity in our thoughts and feelings. It is body-oriented, supports emotional healing, and fosters self-reflection and self-awareness. While many people choose to practice Focusing with a partner or a certified practitioner, practising Focusing alone offers a unique and valuable approach with its own distinct benefits.
A Practice of Presence
Solo Focusing is a practice of being present with yourself. It’s about showing up, exactly as you are, without trying to fix or change anything. This presence is a form of self-care, where you offer yourself attention and acceptance, just as you would to a dear friend.
2. Deepen Self-Trust
Solo Focusing encourages you to rely on your own inner resources. When you focus alone, you’re not depending on someone else to guide the process. This can help you build self-trust, as you learn to navigate your inner landscape with confidence. Over time, this trust extends beyond your Focusing practice and into other areas of your life, empowering you to make decisions that are truly aligned with your inner needs.
3. Enhance Self-Compassion
When you practice Focusing alone, you develop a habit of being present with yourself in a compassionate way. You learn to sit with your feelings, even the difficult ones, without judgement. This practice of self-compassion can lead to profound healing, as you begin to see yourself not as flawed or broken, but as a whole person with complex emotions and needs. Over time, this self-compassion spills over into how you interact with others, improving your relationships and overall well-being.
4. Flexible and Convenient
One of the most practical benefits of solo Focusing is its flexibility. You can practice whenever and wherever you feel the need. There’s no need to schedule a session with a partner or make arrangements around someone else’s availability. This convenience means you can turn to Focusing as soon as you notice an inner need for it, whether it’s early in the morning, late at night, or during a break in your day.
5. Empowerment Through Self-Leadership
Solo Focusing puts you in the driver’s seat. You are both the guide and the explorer, which can be incredibly empowering. This self-leadership fosters a sense of agency, as you learn that you have the tools within you to address your inner challenges. This empowerment doesn’t just stay within your Focusing practice; it can lead to greater confidence and autonomy in your everyday life.
6. Privacy and Safety
Solo Focusing provides a private space where you can explore sensitive or vulnerable areas of your life without the fear of judgement or misunderstanding. This privacy can create a sense of safety, allowing you to be completely honest and open with yourself.
7. Accessible for All Levels
Whether you’re new to Focusing or an experienced practitioner, solo Focusing is accessible to everyone. For beginners, it can be a gentle introduction to the practice without the pressure of performing in front of someone else. For experienced focusers, it’s a way to deepen and expand their practice, exploring new territories of their inner world at their own pace.
Getting Started with Solo Focusing
If you’re ready to start your solo Focusing journey, here are a few tips:
Create a Safe Space: Find a quiet, comfortable place where you won’t be disturbed. This is your time to connect with yourself, so make it as inviting as possible.
Sense Into your Starting Place: Before you begin, take a moment to set an intention for your session. This could be something like, “the whole thing about my stress,” or “I want to connect with my inner calm.”
Be Patient: Focusing is a gentle practice. Don’t rush or force anything. Allow whatever comes up to unfold naturally.
Journal Afterwards: Writing down your thoughts and experiences after a solo Focusing session can help you process what you’ve discovered and integrate it into your daily life.
Conclusion
Solo Focusing is a powerful and transformative practice that offers a host of benefits. From deepening self-trust to enhancing self-compassion, it’s a practice that can lead to profound personal growth. By taking the time to practice Focusing alone, you’re investing in your relationship with yourself—one of the most important relationships you’ll ever have. Whether you’re a seasoned Focuser or just beginning your journey, solo Focusing is a terrific option to explore.
